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Positive, And Positive Again: Tips For Informing Your Parents You're Having A Baby

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Your first at-home pregnancy test was positive. You take another one thinking that it just can't be right. The second one is positive as well. Becoming pregnancy may not have been your plan, but it is now something that you need to deal with. First and foremost, before freaking out, you need to go to a pregnancy testing center, like Alliance For Women's Health, Inc., and undergo professional testing. Professional testing may include an ultrasound in order to confirm your pregnancy. If you are indeed pregnant, your next step is likely going to be telling your parents. But how? Here are a few tips to let your parents know they're going to be grandparents:

1. Consider the Timing.

If you are home visiting your parents for the weekend from college, don't wait until the very last minute to tell them about your pregnancy. If you live at home, don't wait until right before bedtime to talk to them. In fact, the sooner, the better. This ensures you have plenty of time to talk to them about what's going on and offers them ample time to allow the shock to wear off and actually sit down to talk to you. If your parents are no longer married, then you have to make the decision on whether you'll tell them together or separately. If the latter, you'll need to decide which one you should tell first.

2. Remember Your Parents Love You.

When your parents first hear the news, they may not be happy. They may be hurt and maybe even a bit angry. However, just keep telling yourself that they are in shock and need some time to process the news that you have sprung on them. No matter what, they love you and simply want the best for their child. They may just need some time to realize it.

3. Be Prepared for 21 Questions (or More).

Because your parents are going to ask you plenty of questions, such as how, when and who, you need to figure out ahead of time how much information you plan to share at this time. They are most definitely going to ask about the father of the unborn baby, so be prepared to answer questions about him. Preparing for potential questions will be much easier than trying to answer questions that your parents ask on the fly.

4. Have Some Support With You.

If you're scared about telling your parents, have a friend with you when you do so. Your parents may not be too happy about it, but it is important that you feel safe and secure. This is going to be an emotional rollercoaster and having someone beside you through the ups and downs will help you make it through to the end.

It's inevitable that you are going to freak out when you find you're having a baby, unless it was planned. The same can be said about your parents. Just remember that it may be hard, but it isn't impossible. Most parents will come around after the news finally sinks in, and until then, you can find support with your friends as well as a local pregnancy center.